As I write I am sitting in Starbucks window seating and watching the rain fall. I just finished reading Bridge Edwards Blog. Her “It’s Not Goodbye” article was truly confirming for me. She is choosing to place one of her businesses on hiatus to focus more on her family and her passion. The other day I read Foodie in WV Blog and laughed as she discussed the joy and frustration of her husband being on vacation for a week. Truly it brought back memories for me of last fall when my husband was on vacation and I worked outside of our home. Can you say “PEST” to the 10th power?! He called me at work for the silliest things. He even called me once to say he was hungry and there was no food in the house. Can you imagine the look on my face when I heard that statement?! Imagine yourself when you’ve gone to the grocery store and your children tell you there’s nothing to eat. Except this wasn’t one of our children this was my husband. A grown ass man!
This morning my husband was speaking and I interrupted him as while he was speaking. I assumed he was about to make the same statement, yet again, he’d already made twice during the conversation. I was wrong. He has told me twice this week that I do not listen to him when he is speaking. Honestly, I believe I do. Unfortunately, he does not agree. In my defense I truly hear him repeating the same thing over and over and over again. In his defense, he says he is not repeating the same thing but adding something new with each statement. He’s recapping with additional information each time he speaks. Too sarcastic? Pray for me!
Last night I honestly had to tell myself while he was speaking to ‘be slow to speak. be slow to speak. be slow to speak.’ It worked. I did not respond while he was speaking. I waited for breaks to ask questions and comment. He talked ALOT. I’m laughing and upset with myself because I learned this last fall as I read ‘Love and Respect’ by Emerson Eggerich. Mental note: re-read Love and Respect. My husband talked a lot last fall as well because I just shut up and listened as The Lord states.
What I learned is when I am not quiet and allow my husband to speak I miss important information. I would not have known his doctor changed his diet AGAIN, if I did not allow him to speak at his pace. I would not have known he has truly been monitoring his sugar level and taking notice of how the food he consumes affects his insulin intake. This has been a major source of contention between the children and I with him. I would not have known God was answering our prayers if I had not been slow to speak and quick to listen.
What knowledge and information do you desire to obtain from your husband but can’t because your mouth is always moving?
Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: (James 1:19 KJV)